Tell Me with Ellen Pompeo” podcast.She told her special guest, former co-star Patrick “McDreamy” Dempsey, how it all began when she decided a fellow actor wasn’t delivering a performance that was up to her specs. “He made this choice to speak very softly — and I was pissed that I had to sit there and listen to this apology,” Pompeo, 51, recalled to Dempsey, 55, who fans will recall was also recently accused of “terrorizing” the “Grey’s Anatomy” set.